This month’s addition to the Spiritual Toolbox is technically not an addition: it’s something you were born with. Twelve years ago, I hit rock bottom on all levels of life.
I got divorced, lost my home, lost my business, and was being sued by my ex business partner – all within six months. The pain was excruciating – and while it isn’t there we are going to dwell, it is from there that my life transformed. I kept thinking: If divorce is so devastating, how do people survive real tragedies, like losing children or having AIDS? Being homeless or being raped? I had to know, I had to learn, and mostly, I had to share.
What I discovered was so consistent, so powerful, so SIMPLE and so obvious that I have been living it ever since: It’s called compassion, and it is the fastest track to healing. Ask Candace Lightner, who founded Mothers Against Drunk Driving and WeSaveLives after her daughter was killed by a drunk driver. Ask Mary Griffith, the LGBT champion, whose son committed suicide because he was gay and Mary couldn’t accept him. Ask Deanne Breedlove, who became a beloved advocate at Dell Children’s Hospital in Austin, Texas, after her son Ben left this earth five years ago Christmas, after making a YouTube video of his NDE’s and experiences with angels that went viral around the world.
Their stories became my stories; their words, my words. I shared them in my second book, Soul Models: Transformative Stories of Courage and Compassion. These amazing individuals refused to give up: instead, they stepped up – to help others, prevent suffering, and give purpose to their pain. Their journeys not only helped them heal, they helped healed the world. They proved beyond any doubt that compassion is the cure: and, that practicing it is the key to living a life of true authenticity, connection and joy.
The next time your soul feels strained, ask this question: Who can I help and how? Pick up the phone and call someone who would love hearing your voice. Send an email or card thanking someone for something or for no reason at all. Volunteer anywhere that floats your boat, even for an afternoon. Or, simply practice Self-Love, as the greatest form of compassion is caring for yourself. Don’t waste another moment: your life is waiting!